In the beginning………… Think Positive!
This blog post I am going to start to share my story that led to where I am today in my running and professional journey. Not that my story is worth the length of a book, but I plan to break this adventure up over many blog posts to be sure to hit the key points and things that were aha moments. Sound good?
To begin the journey I think I need to go back to one of the key moments that was life changing for me and made me seek change. It happened about 5 years ago and it had nothing to do with running, diet or fitness.
I had transitioned to a new position in my industry for my current fulltime employer for about 6 months and part of taking on this new role there was chance that I may have to deal with my previous employer as a customer.
When I left that employer, let’s just say I did not leave on the best of terms as I was pretty much running away. (At the time, I did not realize how true it was that I was running away like a hostage that found the door unlocked one day…..) Soon after leaving that employer he sued me over my draw vs. commission. The man was just evil and in the end, the law was on my side, but it did not help with the mental damage, it was done. Looking back, I see how mentally abusive that employer was to me and how jealous and negative of a person he was. He really did not like that customers were more loyal to me and not him and his company, this led to a chain of abusive techniques on his end to try to control me. This in turn made me pursue a new career after my wife begged me to leave him after seeing me crumble. The longer I stayed with that employer my drinking increased………………..
Getting back to the key moment: Like I said there was a chance that my previous negative, abusive employer could be one of my clients. Well it happened…….He requested to try to get in on one of the projects I was working on with my new employer (in the world of sales and contracts it is common for companies to join forces or offer finders fees if they think the other one can help close the deal). My office contacted me with the details and asked my opinion. Clearly they knew I was going to tell them to turn it down, but they felt it may be best that I turn him down myself in person. Needless to say I did not sleep that night.
The next morning I realized there was no way I could face the person that sunk me down into such a dark place face to face. I just knew the negativity that would surround the whole ordeal and I just could not allow any more drain on my mental state. So I decided to send him an email saying I was turning him down, that did not go over well. That day was one of the most nerve racking days of my life. It was at this point I knew I never wanted to feel like that EVER AGAIN!
I did not want negativity to control my life. I did not want to be depressed. I did not want to be around abusive or negative people. I did not want others to suck the life out of me with negative thoughts, words or situations. I had to find a way to get away from it.
How could I do this? Instantly I looked to those who I looked up to as role models and tried to find what made them a role model for me and why I admired them. What traits did these role models have that I needed to focus on? After taking a closer look I found a recurring trait that stood out…….. my role models all had a positive attitude even in negative situations. This was HUGE! I felt like I found the meaning of life and from that day on I said I would try to be positive all the time and look at the brighter side of each interaction. Within a few days I saw a change in my everyday life and it felt great! It is a real battle to stay positive, but in the end it is very rewarding. The other thing that happened is my career took off.